Fed is best: when breastfeeding doesn’t work

Fed is best: when breastfeeding doesn't work. Feeding your baby formula isn't the end of the world! Find out why at gloriousmomblog.com.We’ve all met moms who’ve tried everything to make breastfeeding work for their baby, because they know it’s best; but they’re losing their minds because it’s just not happening. They love their bundle of joy so much they’ll do whatever it takes to get them what they need, but either they’re not producing enough milk, or the baby just isn’t gaining weight, or, as in the case of my second born, they’re simply not strong enough to breastfeed. 

I’m sharing my breastfeeding stories for every mama out there that’s beating themselves up because they failed at breastfeeding; who’s ridden with guilt because despite epic effort on their part, it just didn’t work out. 

My firstborn was great at breastfeeding. I fed her eleven months and then she pretty much weaned herself. My last-born I nursed thirteen months, although I came close to quitting at ten months when he nearly gnawed my breast off. My middle child had problems related to the fact that he had heart surgery at one day old (read about that here).

Fed is best: when breastfeeding doesn't work. Feeding your baby formula isn't the end of the world! Find out why at gloriousmomblog.com.

Jac almost had to come home with a G-tube. We were very fortunate that he would take the bottle, and that I had a vast supply of pumped milk. From the beginning he had formula, though, because he wasn’t eating enough and his breastmilk had to be fortified. 

When I got home, I thought things would get better, but they didn’t. Every feeding was a struggle. Poor little Jac screamed and cried through the whole thing: all five minutes of it. I was supplementing with formula-fortified breastmilk. I was trying to pump, but it was so hard! To this day I have the utmost respect for working moms who pump. I was working at home, and taking care of my two small children, while the baby had health problems and was in therapy, was overwhelming to me. 

So when my expressed milk supply ran out at around six weeks, I decided to stop the misery I was putting my son through. I switched to straight formula. Feedings were much easier. I did have a hard time connecting with my son early on, but now we have a sweet relationship. 

Fed is best: when breastfeeding doesn't work. Feeding your baby formula isn't the end of the world! Find out why at gloriousmomblog.com.Looking back, I have no regrets. That was the most overwhelming season of my life. My son is now strong and active, and has conquered a myriad of health issues. Not every child is the same and not every situation is the same. 

If you’re struggling with breastfeeding or feeling guilty for quitting, remember this: you are the best mama for your child. Your sacrifices and unconditional love are forming a tiny human absolutely dependent upon you, not your breastmilk, for survival. For the mamas who have persevered and conquered biting and latching issues and everything else, you are amazing! 

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Formula versus breastfeeding: what's best for my baby. Fighting the mom guilt when breastfeeding isn't working? Let this mom of three littles encourage you. Read it at gloriousmomblog.com.

8 Replies to “Fed is best: when breastfeeding doesn’t work”

  1. Thank you! I was mommy shamed for using formula but had no choice because my daughter had a cleft palate.

    1. That’s horrible! People can be so ignorant 😭

  2. jennifervara18 says: Reply

    You are so right! You have to do what works for you and the baby. Every situation and baby is different. My first baby wouldn’t latch at all. It was very disappointing 🙁 I made it my goal to pump for the first 6 months. It was hard, but I did the best I could. My second one is still nursing 2 years later. lol

    1. Good for you, mama! You rock 😄

  3. We HAD to use formula. My daughter had/has some kind of allergy and they aren’t sure what was causing it. She was having blood in her stools and would scream all the time from being in constant pain. Even after I cut out all dairy/soy.

    1. I’m sorry about that! So glad you figured it out. That is so stressful.

  4. I totally agree with you about the working pumping moms. I only pumped a handful of times. I am sure this is very encouraging for moms that, for whatever reason, formula feed and have felt guilty or even shamed for it. Great post!

    1. Thank you! Yup, pumping is a ton of work!

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